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Naked Roommate’s First Year Survival Workbook

ISBN: 9781402264986

By: Harlan Cohen

Published: 07/01/2012

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$19.99

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An Amazing College Experience Starts with You! The Naked Roommate’s First Year Survival Workbook is your personal roadmap to creating and living your own very best college experience. Based on the bestselling book, The Naked Roommate: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into in College, this guidebook is the ultimate companion for a student looking to have the most successful and productive first year. Harlan Cohen, the most trusted voice on the college transition, and expert instructor Cynthia Jenkins give you ways to evaluate your expectations, interests, and concerns about college life, and then track them against the real deal as you make your way through the exciting, surprising, and, yes, sometimes difficult first year experience. Filled with 107 Naked activities and exercises covering: • Finding your place(s) on (and off) campus • Making friends, talking to parents, and paying for college • Juggling the perks and pitfalls of technology • Study strategies, classroom essentials, and instructor insights • Roommates, relationships, drinking, drugs, sex, no sex, and more...(roommate contract included) If you are open to possibilities and ready to expect the unexpected, some of the best years of your life are about to begin.

About the Author

Harlan Cohen

Harlan Cohen is one of the most widely read and respected syndicated advice columnists for people in their teens and twenties. His column, Help Me, Harlan!, is distributed by King Features Syndicate, and he is the author of Campus Life Exposed. Harlan regularly tours high school and college campuses giving presentations to students, professionals, and parents.

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Table of Contents

Contents
Welcome to the Naked Workbook . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .ix
A Special Note to Instructors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .xi
Naked Preparation: The Work before the Workbook . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
The 90/10 Rule . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
Naked Self-Exam One: Before Arriving on Campus . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
Naked Exercise #1: Expect the Unexpected . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12
Naked Exercise #2: Patience, Patience, and More Patience . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
Naked Exercise #3: Finding Your Three Places on Campus . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21
Naked Exercise #4: When Lost or Confused, Ask for Help . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26
Naked Exercise #5: Be Yourself: Not Me, Not Him, Not Her . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30
Naked Exercise #6: About Your Parents… . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33
Naked Exercise #7: Homesickness: Breathe Deep, It's in the Air . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 39
Naked Exercise #8: Technology: The Fifth Wall . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43
Naked Exercise #9: The Risk-Taking Project . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49
Naked Self-Exam Two: Student Involvement (and Finding Friends) . 61
Naked Exercise #10: Shopping for Friends . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 62
Naked Exercise #11: Temporary Friends vs. Full-Time Friends . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 66
Naked Exercise #12: Getting Involved: What, Where, When, How,
and Why (but Not in That Order) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69
Naked Exercise #13: Clubs and Organizations: A Smorgasbord of Opportunities . . . . . . . . . . 75
Naked Exercise #14: Start Your Own Club or Organization . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81
Naked Self-Exam Three: Greek Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 84
Naked Exercise #15: Greek Life: The Good . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85
Naked Exercise #16: Greek Life: The NOT-SO-GOOD . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89
Naked Exercise #17: Greek Life: The Ugly (Hazing and Social Pressures) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 94
Naked Self-Exam Four: Residence Halls:
Like a Cruise without the Water . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99
Naked Exercise #18: Residence Halls: A Quick Education . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 100
Naked Exercise #19: Residence Halls: A Cruise without the Water . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 102
Naked Exercise #20: The Resident Assistant: Your Personal Assistant . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105
Naked Exercise #21: Meet People in Your Hall without Even Trying . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109
Naked Exercise #22: Getting Involved in Your Residential Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 112
Naked Exercise #23: The Ugly Side of Residential Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 114
Naked Self-Exam Five: Naked Assessment: Roommates . . . . . . . . . . . . . 118
Naked Exercise #24: The Ultimate Roommate Rule . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119
The Roommate Contract . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 121
Naked Exercise #25: Enforcing the Roommate Contract . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125
Naked Exercise #26: Roommate Conflict Worksheet . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 127
Naked Exercise #27: The Judgmental Roommate . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 132
Naked Exercise #28: The Best Friend Roommate . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 137
Naked Exercise #29: The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, or
Transgender Roommate (Pick One) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 140
Naked Exercise #30: The Noisy, Naughty, Nasty, Drunk, High,
Horrible, and Inconsiderate Roommate from Hell . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 145
The Naked Study Section . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 149
Naked Self-Exam Six: Time to Talk about Time . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 150
Naked Exercise #31: Time Wasters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 154
Naked Exercise #32: Why Do You Waste So Much Time? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 156
Naked Exercise #33: How You Have Fun (While Fully Clothed) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157
Naked Exercise #34: Plan to Pick a Planner . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 158
Naked Exercise #35: Knowing Your Limits . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 162
Naked Exercise #36: Finding Your Flexibility . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 164
Naked Exercise #37: Searching for Hidden Time Treasures . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 164
Naked Exercise #38: Be Ready to Adapt . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 166
Naked Exercise #39: Tune in to Your Rhythms . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 167
Naked Exercise #40: Take Advantage of the "Holes" . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 168
Naked Exercise #41: Time to Write Papers (Big Ones, Small Ones, and In-Between Ones) 169
Naked Exercise #42: Protect Your Time . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 174
Naked Exercise #43: Giving Your Parents "The Talk" about Time . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 176
Naked Self-Exam Seven: Class in the Classroom . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 178
Naked Exercise #44: Classroom Savvy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 179
Naked Exercise #45: To Go or Not to Go…to Class . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 181
Naked Exercise #46: Understanding Why You Should Go to Class
(as Opposed to Sleeping In) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 184
Naked Exercise #47: Skip Rope, Not Class . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 185
Naked Exercise #48: Take a Minute to Gripe . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 186
Naked Exercise #49: Solving the Problems That Make You Skip Class . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 187
Naked Exercise #50: What the !a!&% Is a Syllabus? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 189
Naked Exercise #51: Making Sure It's a Match . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 193
Naked Exercise #52: Managing the Mountain of Reading . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 196
Naked Exercise #53: The Power of Questions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 198
Naked Exercise #54: Ask Questions in Class (in Front of Everyone) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 200
Naked Exercise #55: Participation = "Points" . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 202
Naked Exercise #56: Approaching Class with Class . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 204
Naked Exercise #57: Dining with Doctors (aka How to Get Your
Professor to Take You Out to Dinner) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 208
Naked Exercise #58: Professing What You Want from Your Profs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 212
Naked Exercise #59: Office Hours Awareness . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 214
Naked Exercise #60: Office Hours Observations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 219
Naked Self-Exam Eight: A Note-Taking Dance Party . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 223
Naked Exercise #61: A Note-Taking Dance Party . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 224
Naked Exercise #62: A Different Kind of Writing Test . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 225
Naked Exercise #63: Organizing Notes So You Can Use Them . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 227
Naked Exercise #64: Know What to Take Note Of . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 229
Naked Self-Exam Nine: Reading
(after the Note-Taking Dance Party) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 233
Naked Exercise #65: What's Your Reading Load (or Overload)? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 234
Naked Exercise #66: Why I Don't Like to Read for Class . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 236
Naked Exercise #67: When, Where, and How to Read . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 237
Naked Exercise #68: Recalling My Reading Limits . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 239
Naked Exercise #69: Helpful Highlighting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 240
Naked Exercise #70: Getting Cozy with Your Textbooks . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 242
Naked Exercise #71: Taking Advantage of the Features . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 244
Naked Exercise #72: Read and Review . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 245
Naked Exercise #73: Use Those Headings and Subheadings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 247
Naked Self-Exam Ten: Get Your Study On . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 249
Naked Exercise #74: How You Study, Plain and Simple . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250
Naked Exercise #75: A Test for You (That's Right, a Test) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 251
Naked Exercise #76: Learn to Study and Have It Not Feel Like Studying . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 252
Naked Exercise #77: How to Learn without Really Trying . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 254
Naked Exercise #78: Define "Active Studying" . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 255
Naked Exercise #79: Get Graphic with Your Information . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 257
Naked Exercise #80: Find Your Study Buddies . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 259
Naked Exercise #81: Creating a Study Group Preparedness Plan . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 261
Naked Exercise #82: Welcome to Dr. [Your Name Here]'s Class . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 263
The Naked Study Section Is Over!!!! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 265
Naked Self-Exam Eleven: The Naked Money/Financial Section . . . . . . 266
Naked Exercise #83: Loans, Grants, Scholarships, and Loose Change . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 267
Naked Exercise #84: Your Financial Aid Advisor: Money, Money,
Money, Monnneeeey . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .273
Naked Exercise #85: Part-Time Jobs, Big-Time Benefits . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 277
Naked Exercise #86: Credit Card Use and Abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 282
Naked Exercise #87: Bling and Other Bad Ideas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 287
Naked Exercise #88: Budgeting and Banking . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 289
Naked Exercise #89: Building Good and Bad Credit . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 292
Naked Exercise #90: Using Your Good and Bad Credit . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 294
Hooking Up, Relationships, Sex/No Sex, Drinking,
Drugs, Mental Health, and more… . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 297
Naked Self-Exam Twelve: Hooking Up, Relationships, Sex/No Sex . . . 298
Naked Exercise #91: The College Hookup . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 299
Naked Exercise #92: The Long-Distance Relationship . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 304
Naked Exercise #93: Demanding and Commanding Respect . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 309
Naked Exercise #94: I Got Dumped and No Longer Have a Relationship . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 313
Naked Exercise #95: Deciding to Do It or NOT Do It . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 316
Naked Self-Exam Thirteen: Drinking and Drugs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 322
Naked Exercise #96: An Alcohol Examination . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 323
Naked Exercise #97: Alcohol: The Social Lubricant . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 329
Naked Exercise #98: Deciding to Drink Alcohol or Milk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 332
Naked Exercise #99: Drinking and Driving Never Mix . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 334
Naked Exercise #100: You Might Have an Alcohol Problem If… . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 337
Naked Exercise #101: Drugs on Campus . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 341
Naked Self-Exam Fourteen: Just in Case… . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 347
Naked Exercise #102: The Truth about Sexual Assault . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 348
Naked Exercise #103: Exposing the College Eating Disorder . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 352
Naked Exercise #104: Depression and Mental Health Issues . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 357
Naked Exercise #105: The U of No Regrets . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 361
Naked Exercise #106: A Look Back in Time . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 362
The FINAL Naked Exercise: Naked Exercise #107: Insert Your Tip Here . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 365
This Workbook is now…OVER! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 375
The Naked Roommate Online . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 376
The Naked Authors Online . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 376
Author Speaking Events . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .377
The Instructor's Guide and Training on Your Campus . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 378
About the Author: Harlan Cohen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 379
About the Author: Cynthia Jenkins . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 380
The NAKED Suite of Products . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 381
A New Book for Parents of College Students by Harlan Cohen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 384

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Welcome to the Naked Workbook

If you're reading this, I assume that high school is behind you (or almost behind you) and college is now in front of you. While you worked hard to

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Format: Paperback

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Width: 7 in
Weight: 20.08 oz
Page Count: 400 pages

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