Karen Deerwester is the owner of Family Time Coaching & Consulting and a highly respected speaker and consultant for parents and educators. Karen gives practical and personal parenting solutions through her one-on-one coaching, weekly classes and regular seminars, as well as in her writing for Examiner.com, BlueSuitMom.com, FamilyTimeInc.com, South Florida Parenting magazine and numerous other parenting websites. Karen Deerwester has appeared on MSNBC, NBC, and NPR, as well as in Parents and Parenting magazines. Her other books include The Playskool Guide to Potty Training (Sourcebooks 2008) and The Potty Training Answer Book (Sourcebooks 2007), which won the 2008 NAPPA Gold Award for parenting resources.
Do you use myspace, facebook, twitter, or other social networking sites? If so, how do we find you on those sites?
Karen Deerwester on Facebook FamilyTimeInc on Twitter
What books are you currently reading?
Winkie by Clifford Chase Great Writers at the Table by Amanda Hesser (editor)
What are your favorite books?
The Little Prince Grimm's Fairy Tales Harry Potter 100 Years of Solitude Linden Hills Don Quixote The Artist Way Three Cups of Tea Poetry by Mary Oliver and many favorite authors like Barbara Kingsolver and Diane Ackerman... or fun writers like Bill Bryson, David Sedaris, Christpher Buckley and Christpher Moore..
to be continued...
What books would you recommend to your readers?
Blessings of a Skinned Knee Einstein Never Used Flashcards Thinking Parent, Thinking Child The Power of Play Magic Trees of the Mind The Emotional Life of Toddlers The Wonder of Boys ScreamFree Parenting
Any message to your readers?
Parenting is personal. As you try to learn more and be the best you can be, try to focus on your relationship with your child instead of trying to be a perfect parent. Remember mistakes are part of growing - both for parents and for children. Build up your reserves of love, humor and resilience for a lifetime together!
What is your book about? Please provide a description.
The Entitlement-Free Child is every parent’s answer to raising children in an entitlement world. This book explains how we got here and how to move away from entitlement behavior. It explains how entitlement thinking (Me! Mine! Now!) is based on the fear and the panic that there won’t be “enough” for me if I don’t get it all now. It then gives parents effective alternatives to the quick fixes and the short-term solutions of giving-in and buying up. By highlighting the entitlement or entitlement-free messages in everyday parenting situations, The Entitlement-Free Child shows parents how to meet a child’s genuine needs while teaching respect and appreciation for others.
How long have you been at work on this book?
I became strongly committed to this topic in the Fall of 2007 and quickly realized that short articles could address the needs or the concerns of parents or children. See next question for more on this.
How did the idea originate?
The idea for the book can be traced back to a Today Show interview with Po Bronson who was discussing the mistakes parents make when they indiscriminately praise their children (http://www.pobronson.com/blog/2007/07/today-show-segment-video-clip.html, and the article he wrote on the topic: http://nymag.com/news/features/27840).
I sent a few emails to Mr. Bronson which got me thinking about parenting strategies and ineffective parenting choices. That same month, Jeff Zaslow wrote “Blame it on Mr. Rogers: Why Young Adults Feel so Entitled” in the Wall Street Journal.
There was so much more I wanted to say on the subject and I couldn’t seem to accomplish it by writing short articles. So, I contacted Sourcebooks editor Peter Lynch to write the “Praise Answer Book” and, after months of discussion, Peter came up with the title The Entitlement-Free Child.
I start writing January of 2008!
Did the book entail any unusual writing habits or places?
Other than hypnotizing myself with lemongrass aromatherapy, chaining myself to the desk chair, and 15 minute power naps in-between teaching morning Mommy & Me classes and starting writing by 2:00 every afternoon? No, I don’t think so!